The “how much time do I / does she / do we have” rabbit hole can be dark and deep tunnel of anxiety. This is especially true when your mom is in the category labeled “terminal” which is where all GBM (glioblastom) patients reside. When we (I’ll use “we” for all of us on the Susie team) started looking deeply into cancer — especially terminal, we quickly realized that the standard thing to do is some combo of hardcore treatments to stay alive for as long as you can. And, oh yeah, think about your quality of life. One thing we always hear in the offices, exam rooms, message boards and support groups during this cancer care process is “quality of life.” You have to think about extending your life and making the most of your time they say.
Dad’s post last week about practicing presence is a reminder of how we can always make the most of our time and enjoy life by just experiencing the present moment – for what ever it is. That never goes away. It is the blue sky. No matter how many clouds and even through the storms, It is always there. Waiting for our return (to the moment). Quality of life has always been our focus and Mom is amazing, positive, persistent and happy but living with cancer really sucks so we are now acutely focused on healing. The problem is that healing is not the focus of the cancer industry. They can’t even go there and they don’t. So you get the stats and The Plan (“the best plan, no question,” they say)
The standard treatment for terminal brain cancer is surgery followed by radiation w/ chemo, followed by chemo, chemo, chemo, surgery, chemo…maybe shave your head and wear an electrical field cap on your head for two years. Maybe a clinical trial. Extend life as much as possible. Your doing great. You’re healed? No. Chemo isn’t a cure – ask a chemo patient. Mom would say it’s a curse. Surgery isn’t a cure and it takes months if not years for a skull to heal from major surgery. She still deals with a face that doesn’t feel right, ever.
All of these options are available to Mom and they are part of the reason why she is doing so well. Her recent scans show no major signs of growth in the original tumor area. To not see any growth with aggressive cancer like this is a great sign that something is going right. Are there concerns? Of course. There areas near the original tumor area that appear to have changed since the surgery. This could be a result of chemo and radiation (treatment effect) or it could be the next tumor. Brain cancer is nasty – it doesn’t stop but chemo is also nasty and the levels prescribed to mom were crushing her quality of life and literally taking her body down pound by pound. Enough was enough and about a month ago, chemotherapy was shelved. Mom has already gained back some pounds and feels better than ever! She’s also more herself than ever during this time – tears and all.
Another important step was to find a second opinion and hopefully a new doctor / team who would listen to us, give us all of the relevant information about her cancer (not just the cliff notes) and who would attend to her personal needs and not to the standard agenda. Someone we can trust. Mom found that new doctor at the UofM and feels really good about the relationship. The new doctor team has been very active.
From the very beginning, extending life was not good enough for us. We understand how bad cancer is but we are interested in healing. For Mom, for our whole family, for you, for your family, for everyone. So, it is with that in mind that we embark on a journey to the land of true healing! We are foregoing the standard treatment for the next 60 days. Mom feels great right now so we will continue using a combination of immune boosting therapies, energy boosting herbs & medicines, sleep enhancing oils, life affirming / rhythmic / mindful / spiritual practices, good food and great company. Mom will continue to meet with her oncology doctor, continue to get scans and we will continue to try and find the best options out there including various immunotherapies and alternative options. She is not afraid to do whatever it takes to heal and we are not afraid to find It.
We’d love to share more with you about our strategies, practices, therapies and medicines. You can email us at thegraners.com@gmail.com any time with questions, ideas or comments.
Thanks to you all for your amazing support – in thoughts, in prayers, in contributions, in gifts and in visits. We love you and can feel your love.
If time is all we have, we’re not going to waste any more of it.
~ Luke and Team Susie